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ATTACHMENT THEORY

17 Feb
by Zoe Gerlach

Attachment in adults greatly affects how we engage in our relationships. Attachment theory, initially studied in the 1960s and 1970s primarily in the context of children and parents, was extended to adult romantic relationships in the late 1980s. Attachment Theory research reveals important information about how we bond and wire for love. The amount of attunement or lack of attunement by our parents highly affects how trusting we are in regards to love. Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults: secure, anxious–preoccupied, dismissive–avoidant, and fearful–disorganized

I am mainly interested in sharing the 3 main attachment styles that tend to be most prevalent in relationships.
Secure “I am loveable and feel able to love”
Avoidants “I am independant” “I don’t need love”
Anxious or Ambivalent “Do they like me?” “Will I be abandoned if I get attached?”